You know you're supposed to catch them being good. Here's what to say when you do.
The age-by-age script guide. Toddler through older child. Real phrases. The fridge sheet you'll actually use.
"Good job" feels hollow. Specific praise feels stiff when you're not used to it. What works on a two-year-old falls flat on an eight-year-old. So you reach for something to say, can't find it fast enough, and the moment passes.
This is the reference you wish you had at the moment. Four age zones, side-by-side. The exact phrases that land for each developmental stage. Print it, stick it on the fridge, and use the scripts until specific praise becomes how you talk to your child by default.
What's inside
• Cover page with an age-zone map so you can find what you need fast
• Side-by-side scripts page — watch the language evolve from toddler to tween
• Four zone pages — toddler, preschool, early elementary, older child — each with scripts for everyday wins
• Fridge sheet — the one-page take-it-anywhere reference
Who this is for
Parents who've read my Reinforcement guide and want the scripts already. Parents who feel stiff giving specific praise and need a launch pad. Parents with more than one child at different ages who need a reference that works for all of them.
Pairs with
Catch Them Being Good is the script companion to my Reinforcement guide. The Reinforcement guide teaches you the principles. This guide gives you the words. Many readers buy them together — you can also grab Catch Them Being Good as an add-on at the Reinforcement checkout.
Educational Disclaimer
The information and resources provided by Dynamic Behavior Solutions are intended for educational purposes only and are designed to support parents in applying general behavioral principles at home. They are not a substitute for individualized medical, psychological, or behavioral assessment, advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Every child is unique, and no single strategy is appropriate for every situation. If your child is experiencing severe, persistent, or concerning behavioral challenges, or if you have concerns about their development, health, or safety, we encourage you to seek guidance from a qualified healthcare or behavioral professional.